Samara O'Shea

The Art of Seduction

To celebrate the end of the week, I thought I’d treat us to some seduction. I’m reading The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. I bought the book a few years ago. I enjoyed it very much then but something happened—a job change, an apartment move (can’t remember which)—something big enough to have me put the book down. I picked it up again last week—started at the same spot, which was a little ways in. It’s a really fun read! It’s about regular seduction—the sexual kind—but it’s also about seducing on a grand scale. It talks of seducing audiences and seducing people in the professional sense. Some of the techniques seem a little out there, but some of the observations about human behavior and instinct are spot on. Case in point, the passage below. We all know this rule I think, but it can be difficult to apply. I have a feeling I’ll be quoting from this book on a regular basis:

People are inherently perverse. An easy conquest has a lower value than a difficult one; we are only really excited by what is denied us, by what we cannot possess in full. Your greatest power in seduction is your ability to turn away, to make others come after you, delaying their satisfaction. Most people miscalculate and surrender too soon, worried that the other person will lose interest, or that giving the other what he or she wants will grant the giver some kind of power. The truth is the opposite: once you satisfy someone, you no longer have the initiative, and you open yourself to the possibility that he or she will lose interest at the slightest whim. Remember: vanity is critical in love.