What I Read on My 4th of July Vacation
Hello! I hope everyone had a fabulous 4th. I had a magical weekend in Newport. The weather was warm with a never-ending breeze. Nary a raincloud in sight! I caught up with old friends. I slept in and ate well. Above all and most importantly, I did not sit down in front of a computer once from late Thursday night through early Monday evening. So good for the soul!
In any case, I had a 5-hour train ride to/from Philadelphia to Newport, which lends itself to a lot of reading. I read my friend Dave’s manuscript—a memoir he just finished. It’s wonderful. I’ll tell you all about it when it’s published. I devoured the August issue of Psychology Today. It has some great short pieces on kissing (yes, kissing) and grape juice (emphasizing, once again, how good it is for you), and some long pieces on dating (at any age), and (drum roll please) jealousy. The jealousy piece is the cover story. I have long suspected that jealousy is more about the insecurities of the jealous one than the actions of his or her partner. The article confirms my suspicions. I’ve pulled some of my favorite quotes and offered them below, but I encourage you to read the article in its entirety.
Finally I read Time magazine, which had a lengthy piece on infidelity. In reflection, I wrote a blog entitled Infidelity: As it was, is, and always will be for the Huffington Post. I just sent it in, and it’s not posted yet—but I’ll let you know as soon as it’s up. What did you guys read/do this weekend?
PT on Jealousy:
~ Ironic that an impulse that arises from love can so easily destroy it.
~ Jealousy, it seems, says more about the bearer than about the deeds or misdeeds of a mate.
~ All human emotions exist to help us figure out who we are in the world, and jealousy is no exception. It is a resource we call on when we feel at risk, when our sense of self is put in jeopardy. When we feel jealous, we are in fact in the grip of an identity crisis.
~ The higher the level of instability, the more one is prone to jealousy.
~ You can’t eliminate loss. . .but secure people can handle disappointment without feeling like a total loser.