Samara O'Shea

Another Day, Another Scandal

What is there to say at this point? The frequency with which famous men are getting caught with their pants down is rather amusing. Shall we take bets on who will be next? Let me be clear in saying I don’t think infidelity is increasing, I believe that’s always been around. I think get caught is increaing and that is a result of the social media/24-hour news cycle. Yet even in the face of this, many men believe that they are invincible and they won’t get caught. I guess some of them don’t . . .

Now the question: why doesn’t this happen to women? The answer is simple: smaller egos. I don’t mean that to be an affront on men. I think it’s the sad truth. I feel bad for many men—their egos are so big they get in the way of what otherwise might be a productive life. I believe Tiger Woods and Charlie Sheen want, in their heart of hearts, to be good husbands and fathers. They just don’t want to deal with the demons that get in their way.

Here’s Eckhart Tolle on the male/female ego, from his book A New Earth:

“Although women have egos, the ego can take root and grow more easily in the male form than in the female. This is because women are less mind-identified than men. They are more in touch with the inner body and the intelligence of the organism where the intuitive faculties originate. The female form is less rigidly encapsulated than the male, has greater openness and sensitivity toward other life-forms, and is more attuned to the natural world.”