Samara O'Shea

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Outrageous Ideals

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

Hello! I hope everyone had a happy 4th. I won’t be blogging much this week, but I’ll leave you with a really long (VERY good) article on incorporating spouse-approved infidelities into 21st-Century marriages. Fear not, this is for some couples, not all. I encourage you to read with an open mind.

The main subject of the article is a man named Dan Savage. He writes a national column on relationships. Dan also launched the It Gets Better Project, which makes him a rock star. If you don’t want to read the article, Dan’s It Gets Better Video is below.

I Give Thee my Troth

Wednesday, May 25th, 2011

I caught a few minutes of the Royal Wedding (again) over the weekend. For some reason, I haven’t gotten sick of it. Maybe it’s because I sense that Will & Kate are two genuine people. Or perhaps it’s that a royal wedding is as rare as Haley’s comet. I assure you it’s not because I buy into the fairytale. I look at newlyweds (especially royal ones) as two people who have accepted a great challenge, and I wish them all the best.

This time, I caught the ceremony as they exchanged vows. Anglican wedding vows are pure poetry. It’s interesting, the United States is largely Catholic, but it’s the Anglican church’s (called the Episcopal church in the US) vows that are more culturally popular. For example, “Dearly beloved, we are gathered here . . .” is Anglican. As is the famous inquiry, “If any man can show any just cause why they may not lawfully be joined together . . . or forever hold his peace.” These lines are not part of the Catholic ceremony.

During the Will & Kate wedding I took note of the words, “And thereto I give thee my troth.” How beautiful! Of course I had to look up what it meant. It’s the King James way of swearing fidelity and/or sealing the deal. In other words, adding a verbal signature to the vows you’ve just spoken. Here’s to 50+ years of troth for the Duke & Duchess.

The vows, in case you haven’t seen them!

Two Things of Beauty

Thursday, March 3rd, 2011

The first is Lynn’s latest work of art. This was sent to me in postcard form and has me very excited for spring—even if its rainy spring, it’s spring nonetheless.


The second thing of beauty is an excerpt from the Novel Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernières. A friend of mine has asked me to help her find non-religious readings for her wedding. I came across this, which may or may not be her flavor, but it is profound.

“And another thing. Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion . . . That is just being “in love,” which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew toward each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”

All Around the Web

Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011

What I’ve been reading this week:

“Creating a work of art is one of those activities we reserve for humans and humans only. It’s an act of self-expression; you’re not supposed to be able to do it if you don’t have a self.”

This quote is from an interesting, albeit a little frightening, article about artificial intelligence being able to surpass human intelligence by the year 2045. The piece is called 2045: The Year Man Becomes Immortal from Time magazine.

I read a fantastic article in the NY Times yesterday called Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Urges. It discusses Self Compassion, which is so important. Our default setting is to be mean to ourselves—assume we’ve made the wrong decision or done the wrong thing and punish ourselves accordingly. This article sets the record straight:

“I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent,” said Dr. Neff, an associate professor of human development at the University of Texas at Austin. “They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.”

Finally, the royal wedding website has been launched. I’m thinking I should write some faux wedding vows for Will & Kate. Just for fun. Royal Weddings of this magnitude only happen every few decades.

Writing the White House

Thursday, February 24th, 2011

I received a very thoughtful response to my post last Friday—regarding the couple who sent their wedding invitation to the White House. The commenter, who wishes to remain anonymous, has offered a wealth of information on the White House Greetings Office. Thank you very much nameless muse.

In light of the news she sent, I’m going to make sure my sister sends a wedding invite to the Obamas, and I’m going to attempt to have a congratulations card sent to my aunt who just adopted. What a wonderful service the Greetings Office provides!! Details:

“I volunteer in the Greetings Office, answering the President’s mail, and he most definitely receives hundreds of invitations a week. He has yet to attend one, but I am betting on him showing up one of these days to one in the DC area; he’s known for deciding to go places on a whim. But the real reason people invite him is to receive the very nice letter on White House stationery in return, congratulating them on their marriage. (And thankfully, the Obama administration sends congratulatory notes to all couples regardless of the mix of their genders.) Each envelope is hand addressed by a staff member or volunteer, and we put a lot of care into them. We know people save letters on White House stationery for years and so we take the job very seriously.

People can also get letters from the White House to acknowledge anniversaries (every 5 years after the 50th), birth or adoption announcements, retirement from public service, Boy Scout Eagle Awards and Girl Scout Gold Awards, and birthdays for those 80 years and older (70 years or older if the recipient is a veteran). There are many other categories, but those are the most common.

Americans can request such an acknowledgement letter for a loved one by writing to:
The White House
Attention: Greetings Office
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, NW
Washington, DC 20500

The “Greetings Office” part is important because it will get your request routed faster than if they have to sort it along with the tousands of policy letters he gets every day. Requests for acknowledgements of anniversaries, retirements, awards, and birthdays should be sent at least 6 weeks in advance of the occasion, and should include the honoree’s name, preferred form of address (Dr., Mrs., Col., etc.), and the address to which the requestor wishes to have the greeting sent. If requesting a letter for a married couple, the writer should include their married names and their current address. For a baby, the parents’ names and the baby’s name should be included.”

Eye Candy

Friday, February 18th, 2011

Well this is what Eye Candy looks like to me anyway: calligraphy and stationery. Yay!
I was perusing Style Me Pretty yesterday and came across these. Take a close look at who the invite is addressed to. I’m not sure if they really sent this to the White House, but what a fun idea if they did (especially since it’s a same-sex wedding).


And this is adroable. It’s what I call The Last Letter. Bon weekend!


Surprise! Surprise!

Friday, July 2nd, 2010

Late last night Lorissa, web-designer extraordinaire, told me she had updated the site. She turned that around quickly! Please look to your left. You’ll see the lovely new “On Wedding Vows” link at the top of the first information bar. To your left in the middle, you’ll see the “Order Wedding Vows” link. I recommend starting with “On Wedding Vows,” which will lead you directly to “Order Wedding Vows.” The “Order Wedding Vows” page will then take you to the Sample Vows page and a fun new page called the Last Letter.

Look around. Enjoy! If you see any mistakes or have any suggestions, please let me know. I am going to wait until I get back from vacation (see link below for details) before I announce on Twitter / Facebook / in the bridal Blogosphere that this is up and running. Let’s keep it on the DL until I return. Shhhhhhh!