Samara O'Shea

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The Art of Being

Friday, January 27th, 2017

“If other people do not understand our behavior—so what? Their request that we must only do what they understand is an attempt to dictate to us. If this is being “asocial” or “irrational” in their eyes, so be it. Mostly they resent our freedom and our courage to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as our acts do not hurt or infringe on them. How many lives have been ruined by this need to “explain,” which usually implies that the explanation be “understood,” i.e. approved. Let your deeds be judged, and from your deeds, your real intentions, but know that a free person owes an explanation only to himself—to his reason and his conscience—and to the few who may have a justified claim for explanation.” ~ Erich Fromm, The Art of Being

Autobiography In Five Short Chapters

Friday, January 20th, 2017

I’m taking a certification class in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Recently, our instructor mentioned a poem entitled “Autobiography In Five Short Chapters.” She says it’s something she shares with clients on occasion to help them take responsibility for their actions and to emphasize that change is gradual. She didn’t bring the poem up on screen, so I made a note to look it up later. I’m so glad I did. I think we can all identify!

This poem has been known to resonate with people in recovery from substance use problems. I also think it’s tailor made for the unrequited love population. How I wish I had known of this poem when I wrote Loves Me..Not!

Autobiography In Five Short Chapters

Chapter I

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am hopeless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in this same place.
But it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in… it’s a habit… but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.

~ Portia Nelson

Welcome 2014!

Thursday, January 2nd, 2014

“May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art — write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.”
Neil Gaiman

Australian Debut

Friday, June 28th, 2013

A month ago I received an e-mail with “Media Request” as the subject. I assumed it was for letter writing—a subject matter that I still get occasional requests for and am still happy to wax poetic about. To my surprise, however, the reporter—writing for The Sydney Morning Herald—had gotten word of my next project. The Internet never ceases to amaze me. The article posted on Wednesday: How to Survive Unrequited Love.

Change is in the Air

Thursday, March 28th, 2013

“The only thing marriage has ever done, historically and definitionally speaking, is to change. Marriage in the Western world changes with every century, adjusting itself constantly around new social standards and new notions of fairness. The “Silly Putty-like” malleability of the institution, in fact, is the only reason we still have the thing at all. Marriage survives, in other words, precisely because it evolves.”~ Elizabeth Gilbert

Especially Happy or Especially Normal

Sunday, June 10th, 2012

“There is no evidence that we’ve been placed on this planet to be especially happy or especially normal. And in fact our unhappiness and our strangeness, our anxieties and compulsions, those least fashionable aspects of our personalities, are often what lead us to do rather interesting things.” ~ Jon Ronson

Yesterday and Tomorrow

Sunday, April 22nd, 2012

“Let go of your attachment to being right, and suddenly your mind is more open. You’re able to benefit from the unique viewpoints of others, without being crippled by your own judgement.” ~ Ralph Marston

“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.” ~ John Wooden

I finished a journal (number 13 I believe) last week and am flipping through it. I found the above quotes, and am looking at this entry right now:

May 12, 2010

This negativity all comes from the same place. The same space. I must go in, open the door, and turn the lights on. That’s all. It’s not so scary when the light is on. When the love is on. When the self-love is on there are no dark rooms.

My blogging is going to be sporadic for the next month. I’m not sure what that means yet–I hope to write at least weekly. I’m applying to a graduate program and the application process needs my attention for the time being. The job I spoke of a few blogs ago is at a university–making graduate school an affordable option for me. If I get in, of course I’m hopeful, then I will share details on the school and the program. Again, I don’t want to jinx anything. I really don’t mean to be superstitious, but sometimes I can’t help it.