“The only thing marriage has ever done, historically and definitionally speaking, is to change. Marriage in the Western world changes with every century, adjusting itself constantly around new social standards and new notions of fairness. The “Silly Putty-like” malleability of the institution, in fact, is the only reason we still have the thing at all. Marriage survives, in other words, precisely because it evolves.”~ Elizabeth Gilbert
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“There is no evidence that we’ve been placed on this planet to be especially happy or especially normal. And in fact our unhappiness and our strangeness, our anxieties and compulsions, those least fashionable aspects of our personalities, are often what lead us to do rather interesting things.” ~ Jon Ronson
“Let go of your attachment to being right, and suddenly your mind is more open. You’re able to benefit from the unique viewpoints of others, without being crippled by your own judgement.” ~ Ralph Marston
“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.” ~ John Wooden
I finished a journal (number 13 I believe) last week and am flipping through it. I found the above quotes, and am looking at this entry right now:
May 12, 2010
This negativity all comes from the same place. The same space. I must go in, open the door, and turn the lights on. That’s all. It’s not so scary when the light is on. When the love is on. When the self-love is on there are no dark rooms.
My blogging is going to be sporadic for the next month. I’m not sure what that means yet–I hope to write at least weekly. I’m applying to a graduate program and the application process needs my attention for the time being. The job I spoke of a few blogs ago is at a university–making graduate school an affordable option for me. If I get in, of course I’m hopeful, then I will share details on the school and the program. Again, I don’t want to jinx anything. I really don’t mean to be superstitious, but sometimes I can’t help it.
I am reading Some Assembly Required: A Journal of My Son’s First Son by Anne Lamott. I am neither a parent nor grandparent, but I love her humor and take on the human experience and therefore I read whatever non-fiction she writes. While reading yesterday, she made mention of the Four Immutable Laws of the Spirit and listed them. I was moved by how simple and insightful they are. The truth is usually simple and approachable. Lamott did not come up with these, an organizational expert named Harrison Owen did. They are the following (number three is my favorite):
1. Whoever is present are the right people.
2. Whenever it begins is the right time.
3. Whatever happens is the only thing that could have happened.
4. When it’s over, it’s over.
“As an actor and woman who, at times, avails herself of the media, I am painfully aware of the conversation about women’s bodies, and it frequently migrates to my own body. I know this, even though my personal practice is to ignore what is written about me. I do not, for example, read interviews I do with news outlets. I hold that it is none of my business what people think of me. I arrived at this belief after first, when I began working as an actor 18 years ago, reading everything. I evolved into selecting only the “good” pieces to read. Over time, I matured into the understanding that good and bad are equally fanciful interpretations. I do not want to give my power, my self-esteem, or my autonomy, to any person, place, or thing outside myself. I thus abstain from all media about myself. The only thing that matters is how I feel about myself, my personal integrity, and my relationship with my Creator. Of course, it’s wonderful to be held in esteem and fond regard by family, friends, and community, but a central part of my spiritual practice is letting go of otheration. And casting one’s lot with the public is dangerous and self-destructive, and I value myself too much to do that.”
~ Part of Ashley Judd’s response to the recent speculation regarding the cosmetic work she’s had done on her face. Here’s the whole essay.
“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
~ Maya Angelou
Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope you’re feeling the love. These are letters traveling to my loved ones. . .
This pretty postcard is on its way to Erica and Aubrey in Texas thanking them for the card they sent me (two blogs ago). Card courtesy of Hope Wallace Karney.
This is a thank you note on its way to Laurie–event coordinator of the Little Theater at Harcum college–for having me there last Thursday. The clever postcard design is by Missive Maven and was generously gifted to me by reader Mike from Virginia.
Finally, a Valentine’s Day quote:
“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling–it is a decision, it is a judgement, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go.” ~ Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving