Samara O'Shea

Breathtakingly Beautiful

May 20th, 2019

“Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale through the ordinary. That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life and it’s breathtakingly beautiful. ~ L.R. Knost

Sex on a Spreadsheet

May 13th, 2019

As of late, I don’t have time to write a book proposal. But that doesn’t stop ideas from coming. These two titles have been making their way around my brain for a while. This is my process: I think of the title first and go from there. I posted both book titles on Instagram last week and asked for feedback.

Sex on a Spreadsheet: Measuring Your Way to a Happy Marriage

Sex, Silliness and a Spoonful of Sugar: Recipes for Adding Sweetness to your Romantic Relationship

Sex on a Spreadsheet is the clear winner!

I’m hoping by year’s end, when I have my LCSW, I’ll have more time. Do we ever really have more time? It’s hard to have ideas you can’t flesh out. At the same time, it feels good to have ideas…

The Sunday Telegraph (on Monday)

February 18th, 2019

I was interviewed recently by The Sunday Telegraph about writing love letters 💌. Yes, it would have been nice if I had posted this article a few days before Valentine’s Day (as I had planned). Alas! You can write a love letter any day of the year. Write one for March 14th or get a head start on VDay 2020…

Enjoy the Season of New Beginnings!

December 20th, 2018

Photos and design by Andrea Krout Photography.

If I Could Turn Back Time

November 25th, 2018

If I had it all to do over again (and by all I mean launch LetterLover), I would have included a newsletter. When I first started this site in 2005, I offered Letter of the Week as a way to keep audiences coming back for more. It didn’t work very well, and I’m not even sure I updated it that often. Certainly not weekly as the name would suggest. Shame on me! In time came social media as a way to continually engage an audience, and updating a website regularly seemed unnecessary. Again, in time, social media changed (please see previous blog about my breakup with FB and Twitter) and I find writers with newsletters are in the best position to reach their audience. Read the rest of this entry »

The Breakup

November 24th, 2018

After 11 years of being in a serious relationship with Facebook and 9 years of casually dating Twitter, I’m ending my relationship with both of them. Here’s how and why … Read the rest of this entry »

E-Thank You Notes

October 30th, 2018

A friend of mine sent me a thank you note last week, over email. I’m not judging. I’m praising! She thanked me for the 40th birthday present I gave her, the 4-hour trip I took to attend the party, and she attached photos to liven up the message. I have received more handwritten thank you notes from this friend over the past 15 years than any other friend. At 40, she has two young children and not as much time to hand-write notes. She’ll get back to it in 18 years or so. I understand. The note brightened my day nonetheless.

I must confess: I’ve written a few e-notes over the years. I’m not talking about the practical emails we send all day every day but rather the emotional messages that require a little more thought. It can happen that time is of the essence and it’s better to send an e-message than no message at all. When that’s the case, I turn to Paperless Post. Read the rest of this entry »