Samara O'Shea

Shallow Thoughts on JLo

June 12th, 2021

While I’m sure the haven’t-seen-you-naked-in-17-years sex with Ben was (and is) AHHH-mazing, why can’t she be single for two minutes?! Jen, take six months (at least), process these relationships and your incessant need to be in them. You are beyond gorgeous at 51 and you’re going to stay that way for the foreseeable future. I bet Ben would even wait for you. Having had his fair share of relationship troubles, he’ll support you from a distance. You’ve ended many relationships and handled them all the same way: Clinging to the next guy. Try something different. Intense therapy. An ashram in India. Live in the Alaskan wilderness with your kids for a while. Speaking of kids: Process this with them! They were on the brink of having a stepfather and step siblings. How are they handling this? Especially when the tabloids tell them mommy is in Montana with another man. Elizabeth Taylor is calling from the great beyond, “Be single or your chains will be heavier than mine!”

A Little Nobility

March 2nd, 2021

A thoughtful quote to lead us from Black History Month into Women’s History Month:

“When I ran away from slavery, it was for myself; when I advocated emancipation, it was for my people. But when I stood up for the rights of woman, self was out of the question, and I found a little nobility in the act.” ~ Frederick Douglass

Complacent Much

January 7th, 2021

In the days after he was elected, I observed three types of people posting on social media:

1. Trump die-hards thrilled that he won
2. Devastated Democrats
3. Those in the middle who were mystified. Maybe they voted. Maybe they didn’t. They posted things like, “What is everyone so upset about?! Overreact much?”

THIS is what we were upset about. We feared this exact thing would happen!!

Yeah, What He Said

October 30th, 2020

“A system of government that makes the People subordinate to a committee of nine unelected lawyers does not deserve to be called a democracy.” ~ Justice Antonin Scalia dissenting in 2015, when the Supreme Court ruled that the Constitution protected same-sex marriage.

3 Days 15 Hours 30 Minutes left until election day. Vote – if you haven’t already!

Big Men vs. Little Ones

October 12th, 2020

“The danger which troubled my husband was that war might be started not so much by the big men as by the little ones. While big men know the needs for self-control and restraint—little men are sometimes moved more by fear and pride. If only in the future the big men can continue to make the little ones sit down and talk, before they start to fight.”

~ Former First Lady Jackie Kennedy writing to Soviet Prime Minister Nikita Khrushchev on December 1st 1963, one year after the Cuban Missile Crisis and less than a month after her husband’s assassination.

98 Days

July 28th, 2020

There are 98 days until the election. In 2016, I voted but I did not make phone calls, canvass or volunteer in any way. That is a mistake I will not make again. Here’s hoping optimism, unity and leadership (at least an attempt!) return to the White House. An excerpt from an article by Peter Wehner for The Atlantic:

“There were certainly ugly elements on the American right during the Reagan presidency, and Reagan himself was not without flaws. But as president, he set the tone, and the tone was optimism, courtliness and elegance, joie de vivre.

He has since been replaced by the crudest and cruelest man ever to be president. But not just that. One senses in Donald Trump no joy, no delight, no laughter. All the emotions that drive him are negative. There is something repugnant about Trump, yes, but there is also something quite sad about the man. He is a damaged soul.

In another time, in a different circumstance, there would perhaps be room to pity such a person. But for now, it is best for the pity to wait. There are other things to which to attend. The American public faces one great and morally urgent task above all others between now and November: to do everything in its power to remove from the presidency a self-pitying man who is shattering the nation and doesn’t even care.”

FOMO Sapiens

June 12th, 2020

A few years ago, my friend Patrick told me he was launching a podcast. I smiled and nodded with genuine interest but little understanding as to what it meant. These days, I understand. I’m an avid podcast listener and very proud of him. His podcast, FOMO Sapiens, has broad listenership and is now part of the Harvard Business Review network. He recently interviewed TOMS Shoes founder Blake Mycoskie. During their chat Blake discussed the importance of letter and journal writing (who knew?). Patrick invited me on toward the end of the episode to discuss those topics in further detail.

Listen to the episode here and check out Patrick’s second book Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice.