Samara O'Shea

The Last Letter

The Last Letter

The Last Letter is the letter a bride-to-be writes to her fiancé before he becomes her husband. It’s the last letter you write as a single girl. (Of course the groom can write one, too!) This missive is usually delivered the night before the wedding after you’ve said goodbye to each other. Often times it’s accompanied with a gift, but it doesn’t have to be. I was the maid of honor a few summers ago and the bride asked me to deliver her letter to the groom following the rehearsal dinner. She knows how much I love letters, so I was flattered that she asked me to be the deliverer. Why write the last letter? There are several reasons:

  • You don’t need a reason to write a letter to the man you love. Remember this throughout your marriage.
  • He’s nervous—not necessarily cold-feet nervous but excited nervous. He’s also probably nervous about having to stand up in front of a crowd and speak. There are many reasons to be nervous on your wedding day! With this in mind, the letter is a pep talk. You’re telling him you love him, and that he’s going to be great.
  • Tell him how much you’ve missed him. The wedding planning can take you away from, well, each other. Even if you do everything together, you’re focused on orchestrating the wedding rather than your relationship. Tell him you’ve missed him and can’t wait to see him (and only him) on your honeymoon.
  • Finally, let him know that you know the reason for all this fanfare is so the two of you can be together. Even though it’s been stressful at times, you’ve known in your heart that the point is to spend forever with him. And forever begins tomorrow!

And if you’d like help writing your last letter, you know what to do.